Amy is very weepy today. She cried twice at school, and talked about missing Lucy. We suspect "Missing Lucy" means "I feel sad and can’t express why" or something akin to that. I feel helpless. I do not feel that I am meeting the basic needs of my family. I can hear my wife’s voice in my head, "Don’t make this about you" but I cannot helping feeling like the root cause of the problem.
Remeber, kids can’t internalize quite the way we can. You can think about somebody you miss, feel a bit weepy “on the inside” and continue on. Kids, tend to externalize everything (which is why they don’t get ulcers), so just thinking about Lucy CAN in fact make her cry. She can’t just “miss her” quite yet, without actually SHOWING it.